Barrister Gandhi was a casque of very contrary acids. An opponent of public wrongs and a defender of individual rights in Durban, he was quite a wielder of authority at home. Throwing his childhood friend Mehtab out of his Durban home with excellent reason, he very nearly did the same to Kasturba – with no real provocation. She had said to him, “Keep your house to yourself and let me go.”
“I forgot myself. I caught her by the hand, dragged the helpless woman to the gate, which was just opposite the ladder, and proceeded to open it with the intention of pushing her out. The tears were running down her cheeks in torrents, and she cried: ‘Have you no sense of shame? Must you forget yourself? Where am I to go? I have no parents or relatives here to harbour me …’ I put on a brave face, but was really ashamed and shut the gate. If my wife could not leave me, neither could I leave her.”
How do we know of this unacceptable behaviour of Gandhi towards his wife? Not from her, not from witnesses. From him. From the ‘essential’ Gandhi. In all these episodes we see Gandhi employing force, the personal force of his mind-actuated body. We see a Gandhi who is putting his hands to a use we do not quite associate with him. He is no different here from the rest of us who have used or do use force in one form or the other when outraged, disdained, or insubordinated by those over who we feel we have some authority. But it is significant that…it is Gandhi himself who has recorded the incidents as being part of those experiments which made up the sum total of his evolving personality.
And lest it be thought that Gandhi stood for the use of physical force in those or similar circumstances, it is important to see that he was constantly making new tools for his satyagrahic intervention, tools which used his sense of outrage but sublimated it into something other than rage, into a greater and more potent energy, a capacity to turn the arrow of hurt into himself, to bear the resultant pain and use that pain to transform people and circumstances…
Source : The Oxford India Gandhi – Gopalkrishna Gandhi
The Power of the subconscious mind
What the other person says or does cannot really annoy or irritate you except you permit him to disturb you. The only way he can annoy you is through your own thought. For example, if you get angry, you have to go through four stages in your mind:
You begin to think about what he said.
You decide to get angry and generate an emotion of rage.
Then, you decide to act.
Per-haps, you talk back and react in kind.
You see that the thought, emotion, reaction, and action all take place in your mind. When you become emotionally mature, you do not respond negatively to the criticism and resentment of others. To do so would mean that you had descended to that state of low mental vibration and become one with the negative atmosphere of the other. Identify yourself with your aim in life, and do not permit any person, place, or thing to deflect you from your inner sense of peace, tranquility, and radiant health