Speaking tree : Up your self-esteem


There are some people who over the years i realized are hell bent on making other people feel worthless by crushing their opinions with some sort of logical mumbo jumbo.. They manage to constantly get on my nerves coz their narrow mindness, prejudice and unacceptance of other people’s perspectives. And all this is such a reflection of their self esteem.. This one’s for them..

An important lesson in life is to value ourselves. If we do, we will walk with confidence and see ourselves and our experiences from the right perspective. We cannot avoid people holding us and our achievements in contempt. Once we learn to believe in ourselves, our innate goodness and our value as unique beings created in God’s image and likeness, we will start living from a different paradigm. We will also begin looking at others as fellow human beings, all on the path to the divine and sharers in this journey of life.

All areas in life are important – looking after ourselves and maintaining ourselves physically, keeping our spirits high and in tune with the divine, widening our horizons, keeping ourselves centered and being conscious of the spiritual and divine. Innate value is something that is independent of the circumstances of our birth, socio-economic status and the slot we occupy in life. We will find that all the joys of sharing a simple life and a humble position have led us to add value in life. Values are often equated with moral values.

While the most fundamental moral values are almost universal, life does not stop with morality. Life is also about giving and taking, about love and friendship, about generosity and vision. We will find that even if unconsciously, we all have a mission statement in our lives. This mission statement will encompass all the good we do in life and all the potential we develop to do good to others. On the other hand, if we continue with narrow motives, what we would have, really, is a distorted view of the world.

With narrow world views we will judge others by our own subjective standards that are coloured often by prejudice and acrimony. If, on the contrary, we look at life as an open book on which we write messages of harmony, brotherhood and sisterhood; encourage others to brave living and see our actions as a furtherance of the divine purpose, our lives will be informed by the values that are close to true humanity. True humanity is represented by true values. We will not look only for gains but for opportunities to serve others.

Everything in nature has an intrinsic value — fields, flowers, trees, sky, infinite space, stars and all living beings. As human beings, we need to realize our true potential and value. Once we realise our intrinsic value, we will stop playing to the gallery, we will not look for constant approval or appreciation. Whatever we do, we will rest in the assurance that we have contributed something worthwhile. This means that we accept ourselves as we are and remain content with what we have so far achieved.

We do not respond to put downs or rejection with despondency or a sense of failure. We do not miss the point, even if others have about us. It is strange how we sometimes have to experience ‘failure’ many times before something ‘works out’. Trial and experimentation are part of the process. We become more giving in our relationships, and receive life with open hands. Yes, it is possible, in fact probable that people will devalue us. But once we know who we are – precious children of a common God who is Father to all – we will value ourselves and our lives as a gift from God.

Source: TOI


About G...

Evolving and revolving! Douglas Adams & Woody Allen are my soul mates from another era. My quirkiness is an eclectic mix of Jess (New Girl), Dharma and Carrie Bradshaw. Sharing my birthday with Paulo Coelho & Stephen Fry, i'm always reading a book and enjoy having engaging conversations about life and love. I take children, wit and play seriously, very seriously. I'm a renaissance soul who enjoys yoga, vodka with cranberry and doodling. Working in the field of Education and Story-telling, there are only two things i look forward to: Knowing myself and Everything that matters!

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