Amanda Palmer talking about her relationship with author Neil Gaiman
“Our relationship is open, and the open-ness is grounded in total honesty with one another. We’re very communicative with each other and we share everything. I think that’s the way you gotta do it. I can’t speak for anyone but myself, and there are a million ways to love and be in a relationship,” Palmer said. “But fundamentally, I think if you’re going to have a really, truly loving partnership, you have to be completely transparent, communicating and sharing everything. Neil and I fall more and more in love with each other every day, and I think part of that is because we encourage each other to say more, share more, to peel ourselves open to each other in the middle of the night when the day is done and the real talking happens. It’s not always easy, the peeling sometimes hurts, but the deep love it fosters is clear to see.”
She speaks with such openess, just like the very vibrant Jada Pinkett Smith
Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should “behave”? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions, and underlying threats of “you better act right or else” keep one honest and true? Do we believe that we can have meaningful relationships with people who have not defined nor live by the integrity of his or her higher self? What of unconditional love? Or does love look like, feel like, and operate as enslavement? Do we believe that the more control we put on someone the safer we are? What of TRUST and LOVE?