I got to watch some interesting videos today
This one on is about looking at desire from a place of selfishness rather than selfless love for the partner in a long term relationship.
I love how she explains that we need to cross over to the other side and watch this person in his/her fully glory and radiance rather than think of them as an extension of your own. If this is a sort of erotic intelligence, we can all learn it too.
Can we increase our ability to love and to be loved? Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of The Gifts of Imperfection and professor at the University of Houston, has spent the last 12 years looking into questions like this one, scientifically researching the scope of human emotion, from shame to what she calls in her celebrated TEDx talk wholeheartedness. Here, she talks with Oprah.com about what this last idea means—and how it can change your life if you take some practical, down-to-earth steps to cultivate it.
Read more: 5 (Doable) Ways to Increase the Love in Your Life