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Erotic Intelligence

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I got to watch some interesting videos today

This one on is about looking at desire from a place of selfishness rather than selfless love for the partner in a long term relationship.

I love how she explains that we need to cross over to the other side and watch this person in his/her fully glory and radiance rather than think of them as an extension of your own. If this is a sort of erotic intelligence, we can all learn it too.

 

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How to Get Flat Abs, Have Amazing Sex and Rule the World in 8 Easy Steps.

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Admit it, the title of this post got you here, didnt it?

Read on…

The covers of most men’s and women’s magazines have similar headlines: get great abs and have amazing sex.

From the looks of it, these two issues have been recycled over and over (with some other stereotypically gender relevant articles thrown in) on every Men’s Health, Maxim, Cosmo and Glamour cover since the dawn of time. In fact, I’d bet that if we could get a better translation of cave drawings, they would read something like “Grok get flat belly; make girl Grok moan with joy.”

And we keep buying them. We keep buying this lie that these things will make us happy. I’ve had washboard abs (past-tense) and I’ve had some pretty phenomenal sex. Neither one made me a better person; neither one completed me or made my life more fulfilling.

We chase this idea of “I will be happy when…”

I will be happy when I have a new car. I will be happy when I get married. I will be happy when I get a better job. I will be happy when I lose five pounds. What if instead we choose to be happy—right now?

If you can read this, your life is pretty awesome.

Setting aside our first world problems and pettiness, if you are online reading this, you have both electricity and wifi or access to them. Odds are you are in a shelter of some sort, or on a smart phone (and then kudos to you for reading this on the go). Life might bump and bruise us, it may not always go the way we plan and I know I get frustrated with mine, but here’s the thing

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